Ok, so much for getting my "series" out this week. Everything's very, very busy. My parents arrived today, along with a bunch of other stuff. However, I do have a question before the family reunion Sunday is upon us.
If you are an adoptive parent or a transracial adoptive parent, this question is for you! Please, please feel free to answer/leave a comment.
Examples of proper responses to improper questions would be nice.
How to handle things in a God-honoring way without blowing a fuse would be great. In fact, pray for me, just in case I have to deal with improper attitudes, etc.
I'm just a bit apprehensive about things this weekend (not with immediate family, mind you, but extended family that live a good distance away...I don't have to deal with them on a daily basis, but comments still hurt!) Hopefully, all will go well....but past experience makes me feel otherwise.
Blessings!
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Thats a super tough question because everyones situation are very different and everyone family responds differently. I still find that my mom's side of the family tends to look as Zade as "someone elses" child and not ours and I'll never forget the first time my grandmother met him ALL she talked about was his Birth mother and how terrible it was of her to not want him, etc. VERY negative! I left crying because it was supposed to be "my moment" - a time when my family should be rejoicing with and FOR me! Anyway, you know - you just have to remember that you are in God's will. Keep the "sword" close to your heart and fresh in you mind and the Lord will give you the grace and words to say in every situation. It will just come to you from the Holy Spirit! Seriously Try to be super positive BEFORE anyone has a chance to be negative! And always bring it back to God and what a biblical thing you are doing and how the Lord LOVES adoption and COMMANDS us to care for orphans!!! He will give you all the words you need! Trust Him!!
so, smacking them in the mouth's out of the question? - hmmm, i'll have to get back with ya on that one!
lori
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Smile and nod, smile and nod. ;) Some people will say unkind things because they are hurting people, not much you can do about them except forgive them and pray for them (way easier said then done). However I have found that almost all of the comments you get from others usually come either from lack of understanding, unsure what to say, or intended well but comes out wrong. How often are we also in their shoes of meaning well and coming across wrong? So for most of them I've truly taken on the motto of "just smile and nod". I've tried in the past to correct or educate others (and on occasion will do depending on the person and comment) but mostly it is best to just let it go and continue to show them kindness. Also be aware that adoption is a highly emotional experience so it's helpful to try extra hard not to get overly emotional with comments (again, easier said then done).
So... How did it go?
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